In this day and age do we really appreciate our Parents?
If someone came to you today and offered you a free lunch, what would be your response? No doubt you would smile, speak kindly to them, and reserve a special place in your heart for their memory. Why is it then that our parents receive only cold stares, harsh words and bitter treatment and they are who they are in our lives? For Twenty or Thirty years they fed us, clothed us, washed us, and showered their mercy on our soft skin. Their love for us never dies even if we do, love that goes even beyond us, to our children and even their children.
Let us think about how many of us treat our parents. We shy away from them when they may need something. We never visit if we are away from them. In fact, many people dispose of their parents in retirement homes. And when an argument ignites between our parents and us, many of us shout at them as if we were arguing with our evilest enemy, May Allah protect us all.
Compare this to those that came before us. Hazrat Dhibyaan ibn Ali ath-Thowree (ra) used to travel with his mother to Makkah Paak and Madinah Paak. There – in the scorching heat – he would dig a little pool and fill it with cool water. Then he would turn to his mother and say, “Ummi, sit in this water to cool yourself.”
Quran e Karim says
And your Lord decreed that you should worship none but Him and that you be dutiful to your Parents. If one of them or both attain old age in your life, then do not say to them uff (a word of disrespect), nor shout at them, rather address them in terms of honour / And lower for them the wing of submission and humility through mercy. And say, “My Lord! Grant them Your Mercy as they brought me up when I was small.” – Al-Israa’ 17/23-24
Allah Karim is informing us not to use the term “uff” at vall to our parents, in this day and age we say much worse terms to our parents. Its time to wake up and truly understand the ranks of our beloved parents.
Hadith of Sayidnah RasoolAllah (Salal lah Aley hi Wasalam)
A Sahabi came to Sayidnah RasoolAllah (Salal lah Aley hi Wasalam) – seeking permission to go for Jihad. Sayidnah RasoolAllah (Salal lah Aley hi Wasalam) – asked him, “Are your Parents alive?” He said, “Yes.” Sayidnah RasoolAllah (Salal lah Aley hi Wasalam) – replid, “Perform Jihad (in you kind treatment) of them.” (Bukhari)
Sayidnah RasoolAllah (Salal lah Aley hi Wasalam) informed th Sahabi to go and serve his parents while the rest were in battlefield. This goes to show that serving your parents is stronger then serving in the battlefield.
I came across a wonderful story that made me realise as an individual how we can pay back our mothers affections towards us. Its simple we cannot. A Man came to a Shaykh in Iraq and asked the following question “Oh Shaykh have i fulfilled my right as a son to my mother? the Shaykh replied “What have you done as a son to propose this question?”The man then informed the Shaykh and said “Oh Shaykh my mother is elderly and is unable to walk at times, Oh Shaykh from Iraq I carried my mother on my back to perform Haj, I carried my mother throughout the haj, I carried her on my back to Madinah tul Manawarrah and we went walking which took many months to reach the city of Prophet (Salal lah Aley hi Wasalam), I carried her everywhere i went. I carried her back to Iraq. This journey took many months, now i am sitting in your presence asking you have i done enough as a son for my mother? The Shaykh replied “Oh Brother what you have just done does not match one scream your mother gave for you before you were born”
So my brothers and sisters we can never pay our mothers back. All that pain and suffering they went for us during those months BEFORE we born can never be paid back.
We need to learn to do for our mothers.
I also came across a link which you all should watch
May Allah increase the ranks of our Parents Ameen
If our parents are no longer in this world, then May Allah grant them a high moqam in Jannah Ameen